It's been a while...
Beneath the surface...
This is also the perfect weather for weddings! My sister is getting married on May 25th and I've been spending the last six months helping her plan and prepare for this momentous occasion which is a difficulty for me as I am not a very social person... and planning a bridal shower, attending a bachlorette party and preparing for a most-beloved-sister's wedding has brought me so far out of my comfort zone that I've been in a constant state of inebriation just to cope! But each party has been wonderful; my sister has many friends, lots of people who love her, she's very popular and well-liked and it's great to be around all the people who love her almost as much as I do. Even my hermit-like mother has been getting into the social spirit- then again, mom, like Kendra, has a million friends and people who love her. So much love, so many people who celebrate and like you just the way you are...
I wouldn't know what to do with all that attention. I'm told I'm very well-liked, that I'm sweet and a good listener, but I can't help thinking the wedge between me and (seemingly) the rest of humanity is so deep that I would never have the outpouring of love mom and Kenn get... I'm not very close to anyone but Andrew so I can't really wrap my mind around how Kendra has so many friends... all of her friends know her so well... the only friend who gets to know me on my level is Andrew which is pretty awesome- I don't feel so terribly alone knowing there's a weirdo out there who shares my situation. We are two very well-liked people who make good listeners and good friends, but few-to-none of those people actually get to know either one of us on a very personal or deep level, usually me and Andrew are just sounding-boards, audiences for people and their thoughts. I suppose there is a use for people like us, but it sucks anyway. I could probably count on one hand how many times a friend has ever asked me personal questions or taken a interest in my feelings or thoughts. I sort of exist to listen, not to talk... it makes it difficult to be close to anyone when everyone only wants you to know them, not the other way around. Then again, Andrew and I are both very guarded emotionally, so I suppose it's a vicious cycle that we're happy to be sharing with at least one person out of the seven-billion other weirdos! I can't forget that there are people, friends I've had the pleasure of knowing only online, who do very much keep up with me, it's a pity we have to be so far away from one another and I'm sorry I'm such a hard person to stay in contact with, you know me ^_^.
When the wedding comes, it will be emotionally taxing and more stressful than it has been so far- I imagine one of my parents will act a fool, children will be obnoxious and I'll be forced to keep a plastic grin on my face as I attempt small-talk, which is pretty much how things usually go down so nothing new. I'm going to try and just be there for my sister and be as compliant and helpful as I can, that way I can focus on what really matters and not on my anxieties. I feel much less anxiety since I began losing so much weight. I'm down thirty eight lbs, six-inches around my midsection. I tossed my old size 13 and size 12 jeans and I'm working to quit smoking cigarettes now that I've begun running again and marathon training. I sleep better, I feel better about myself and I feel happily settled into my vegetarian lifestyle (cutting meat has done wonders for my stomach). So wish me luck and wish my sister good prayers for her special day.



















